Vincent The Dragon

Friendship is co-operative and supportive behaviour between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, and affection and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behaviour, such as exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviours. Yet for many, friendship is nothing more than the trust that someone or something will not harm them.

Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:

* the tendency to desire what is best for the other,
* sympathy and empathy,
* honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart,
* mutual understanding.

In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association can be thought of as spanning across the same continuum. The study of friendship is included in sociology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social psychology, social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles.

So, i look at this and try to decide if my friends actually have a friendship with me. For the most part the answer is no...most of them do not. They are friends, but i don't have a friendship with them. Words like; "mutual", "loyalty", "co-operative", and others seem to denote friendship is a 2 way street. Friends that take this from me, but don't return it do not fit the criteria of 'Friendship'. Most of you care for me when i come to you FOR you but you don't come to me FOR me. Many of you that do come to me, do so FOR them. Take an interest in me because you want to, not because you want me to reinforce you or dont call me friend; call me acquaintance instead because that's all you are.